Affection vs. Attention

Yay, so I have a new psychological development I once again come up with while I was with my friend from work. I think I need to keep him around, he seems to be a good source of contemplation.

So he was talking about his lovely, but more so psycho ex-wife. And I was talking about this girl who I have had sort of a on again, off again relationship with. Both of these girls we both concluded desire attention. His ex-wife he said didn't even care what kind of attention she got, as long as she got attention. And I will be the first to admit that I am a sucker when it comes to women, and this girl I'm pretty sure has realized that. She likes to drop those lines where she is fishing for attention, the kind like "I don't think I'm very pretty." Ya...that crap. In fact she just texted me with one now...but because I'm a sucker I usually bite and give her the attention that she longs for.

Now, my friend and I are both very different in our habits, or really how we handle women. He is the type of guy that is fairly hands off, doesn't give out a lot of attention, not the super affectionate type. Where as he likes to make fun of me and call me "needy" when I just think of myself as affectionate. And maybe it's justification for myself? But in the course of this conversation with my friend, to distance my personality from theirs (since there are some similarities) I realized the difference is affection vs. attention.

Both of these girl required attention to be given to them; some people just have to have it. While there are those of us who love to give attention (I call it affection, it makes me feel better about myself).

Conclusion: I waist a lot of time with this girl. For as much as I love to give affection, it wares if the person you give it to only takes and never returns. So I end up purposely trying to make her mad so she'll stop talking to me. It's actually quite fun to do, and I'm quite good at it. Ask my mom, I knew EXACTLY how to push her buttons growing up...